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1Nov/121

Wine and Love: 14

5641043482 6f577b210d mToday I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week! It's hard to keep track, I know, but do try to keep up!

Wine

  • No word on the iPad, so I think it is likely gone. It's still possible it may turn up in the lost and found, but at this point I have my doubts. On the plus side it does appear someone just wiped it straight away, which in the grand scheme of things is the best I could hope for, in terms of data integrity. I don't quite understand the mentality that could take something like that, even carelessly left behind, and not feel a pang of pity. I almost wish I could talk to the guy/girl who picked it up and made the conscious decision not to turn it in. Maybe they sold it to feed their starving family, I'm not sure. So that sucks but, really, if I'm gonna have something bad happen, losing a non-essential item is hardly the worst. I am realizing how much I use it, though, and I did order a new one (though a cheaper model than before).
  • Work stress continues unabated. It's partly just the time of year, partly that they keep expanding my job duties, partly that we have some major projects, but overall it means I'm often leaving work exhausted and unhappy. I've been leaning into WoW a bit heavily lately but, truthfully, I'm glad the outlet is there.
  • I love my parents, but I get some judgment from them on leaning into WoW, at staying locked up in my room, at my more introverted nature. When I try to open up to them lately I've gotten interrupted with "solutions" and, truthfully, I feel like it may be time for us to part ways. More on this in the section below.

Love

  • Tying in with what I said before, I am having such a blast in WoW these days it's not even funny. I'm learning to tank on my monk (who's level 86), I'm taking my time going through the Mists questing and it's just been so much fun kind of losing myself a bit and forgetting my cares. And smashing mobs with kegs of beer, obvs.
  • After I finish this post I'm emailing my realtor. Period. No more excuses. No more "I'll wait until"s. It's time to start. I keep putting it off but, I also have to realize that it's not like tomorrow I'm gonna find my place and move. This will be a long process of finding the right place, for the right price, and it's time to get started. My finances aren't 100% totally perfect, but will they ever be? I'm tired of waiting. Course, I'm emailing my realtor to say "can you refer me to someone else?" because I'm pretty sure he doesn't work in the area I now want, but hey, still! Progress. A start. My goal would be to host a birthday party in my new house, but I'd rather find the right place than the quick and easy place.
  • Therapy has been going well. There haven't been too many huge and amazing break-throughs, but I'm making quiet, small changes that seem to be helping. I'm catching myself before I'm spiraling into bad thoughts. I'm stopping myself before I read too much into things. One of the big things has been reminding myself that, often times, when someone criticizes me or speaks harshly to me, it's more reflective of them than me. I'm trying to stop myself from taking such things personally, and instead just shrugging and saying "ah well, buddy is taking out his/her bad day/insecurity on me. Next."
  • As much as I may have some issues with my parents, they have been pretty good about letting me be and recognizing I'm stressed and need some time. My mom has been really good about helping me out, which I'm grateful for, and my Dad's been pretty good too, they just don't quite get it. They grew up in big families; privacy and introversion are entirely foreign concepts to them, as are the ideas of just wanting to talk things out and not really solving problems.
  • My friends continue to be awesome people, and I love them all for it. Positive, supportive and awesome. The only problem is that so few of them live nearby. MOVE TO CANADA YOU PEOPLE.

What are you loving this week? And what's making you whine?

25Oct/121

Wine and Love: 13

5641043482 6f577b210d mTwo weeks in a row! Blogging win! Today I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week! It's hard to keep track, I know, but do try to keep up!

Wine

  • I left my iPad on the train sometime on Monday. I've been worried sick about someone getting into my data, harassing friends or doing God knows what with it. So far I believe we're safe; it looks like whoever got it either turned it into the lost and found or has wiped it. Using the iCloud stuff I can tell it hasn't been online (at least without being wiped) at least since Monday night, which means either it's been turned off since then (which is the lost and found's standard procedure) or wiped. I've set it to wipe the next time it comes online for data integrity. All signs seem to be pointing to it being in the lost and found, but since all that stuff has to be processed I won't know for a few days.
  • Honestly that's been the big one, and some of the fallout and worries from that. Besides that, work's been busy, but I could practically leave that on here permanently!
  • I haven't been sleeping well lately. Part of it is just bad habits, part of it is the myriad things I'd rather be doing than sleeping, part of it is iPad and work things on my mind a lot. I've been trying to get to bed earlier, but it's not easy when there's so much I want to do.

Love

  • Mists of Pandaria continues to delight and entertain, which is great. I said this last week, but I cannot overemphasize how glad I am to have this awesome outlet and the wonderful people that come along with it. We ran dungeons last night and, even though they didn't go super well, I had a blast. If you've ever thought you might enjoy WoW, do give it a try, and let me know so I can bring you into my awesome group of people there.
  • My friends have been amazing. GFM especially has been a big help and is great at keeping me grounded and keeping things in perspective. Thanks, GFM.
  • I bought a ticket to VidCon! Still figuring out the flight and everything, but it'll be awesome to meet and hang out with people I've blogged around with and whatnot for so long.
  • I'm generally eating healthier and feeling better these days. I've had one person ask if I lost weight; I haven't checked in a while, so I'm not sure, but that was nice. I feel like I see a little bit in my face, but that could be imagination.
  • Therapy has been going well. I feel like I'm making real progress, which largely means breaking down a lot of the things I had thought I knew about myself. It's fascinating, and a tad bit scary, but good.
  • I've moved some money around and cleared up some financial stuff, which is a huge weight off my shoulders. I'm getting close to being ready to tackle the move. Not quite there, but close.

What are you loving this week? And what's making you whine?

18Oct/124

Wine and Love: 12

5641043482 6f577b210d mBack at it after a break! Today I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week! It's hard to keep track, I know, but do try to keep up!

Wine

  • Friends are having problems, and I'm trying to help, but I find I say the wrong thing all too often. I almost want to try and find a book on it, but I think each person is different. I just wish I could help more, that I knew what to say and do.
  • I'm failing a bit at adulting these days. It feels like the money is just slipping through my fingers, and I have no idea where it goes. I've been using Mint to track and keeping an eye on my bank account but it just all seems to slip away, and with that a lot of my goals get a little further off. I'm doing my best, but it just doesn't seem to be good enough.
  • Work gets busier and busier, with more and more things being heaped on my plate. I know largely there isn't much choice, but it still is making for some stressful days.

Love

  • Mists of Pandaria continues to delight and entertain, which is great.
  • I've discovered an easy, healthy dish that I can cook and vary a bit in order to keep it new and interesting!
  • I've been chatting to folks on GChat more often, which has been nice, getting to know some blog folks a bit better.
  • I had a lovely second Thanksgiving with Matt and Lauren at their new house. It's looking amazing. Their family is so welcoming, and I got to do a nice mini road trip with some friends. Overall, a fantastic weekend. More of that, please.

What are you loving this week? And what's making you whine?

19Jul/122

Wine and Love: 11

5641043482 6f577b210d mSo today I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week! It's hard to keep track, I know, but do try to keep up!

Wine

  • I've had a rough few days at work. Nothing terrible, just things have been busy, and it takes its toll.
  • As much as I'm super grateful for the chance to live in this place, it's still really weird to live in someone else's space, and not entirely ideal. Mostly just because like…I'm trying to fit two people's lives, essentially, into a bachelor apartment. It's definitely been a great experience overall, though. I've learned to cook new dishes, manage meals and all that, which has been great. And I've been seeing folks more often, which is also just wonderful. But I will be glad to move home in a week or two.
  • I've been a little annoyed at the transit system in the city. Most of it seems to just be bad luck, but I swear I'm having tons of trouble with it. As much as I like the fact that it can get me to my doorstep more easily than the trains I normally take, it can still be a hassle. I've been late to work almost every day so far; if I leave early, there's a delay on the transit system. If I leave late, I get lost finding my way out of the transit system. Can't. Win.
  • I haven't slept well in…a month or two now. For various reasons, now being that I'm not sleeping in my own bed, and this heat wave doesn't exactly help. And although I'm physically closer to work, I don't really get to sleep in by much more than about 10 minutes. Especially since the transit system has proven I can't rely on it.

(Editor's note: Phew, that's a lot of wine, Tom).

Love

  • Well, where there's wine, there's also love. I have made some delicious dishes for myself. A simple pasta sauce with whole wheat pasta and beef, I cooked myself, has been super satisfying. I've been munching on carrots to try and make sure I get some veggies, too. 
  • I've been inspired to write a lot more here. It's funny, but I think it has to do with the fact that, at home, I sit at a desk where, historically, I've gamed. For years, that spot has been where I chatted and gamed. Not much else. So to sit there and write feels…weird. Off. Odd. Whereas here, sitting in a new spot, I've kind of redefined that a bit. I game in this spot, but I find myself gaming a lot less, and writing a lot more. I need to see if I can create a spot like this in my own place, or even at home, temporarily at least. I might look at getting a better chair for the back deck table. The chairs we have now are all recliners, so don't work entirely well for writing, but for the next month or two, that would be the perfect spot to write.
  • Although I've felt out of sync with some friends lately, I've felt like we reconnected a bit, which is good. Very good.
  • I've been drinking more wine. Wait, does that belong in Wine, or Love? Ah well.
  • VEDA is coming up soon! I've also possibly convinced several friends from offline (I hesitate to call them IRL friends, cause are we not real life friends too, folks? Is this not reality, in a way?) to join in. At least one so far, and possibly two more!

What are you loving this week? And what's making you whine?

12Jul/121

Wine and Love: 10

So today I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week!

Wine

  • While I'm enjoying living in the city, it's not totally ideal. I can't say I love the subway, though I am getting more reading done. I still feel a little bit out of sorts, living in a place that's not mine. Though, to be fair, this is a very minor w(h)ine. Though I am hot!
  • Haven't been sleeping well the past...few weeks, now. There are a variety of reasons for this, mostly based around eating habits, sleeping in a new bed, all that, but it just adds up to me feeling off and a bit worn down. And unable to get up early. Or, well, not unable. But really not feeling up to it.

Love

 

  • I've been keeping up with blogs, and a little more with YouTube, and even doing some writing myself. I missed it, and I'm glad I'm getting back to it.
  • I went home for a little bit on Tuesday night, and being away, and living on my own, has made me really appreciate my Mom, and my house. Although it's not perfect, I will be glad to get back there for a little while.
  • I'm enjoying my time alone, but finding it is making me crave time out a bit more too. I've been out and about with people almost every day since Saturday, and I've actually enjoyed it, and not felt drained. I think this is because most nights I am coming home alone, and can shut myself off when I need to, which is great. But it's making me realize that I don't entirely hate social engagements, and they're not always super draining. So it's a nice realization, truthfully.

What are you loving, and not loving this week?

21Jun/120

Wine and Love: 9

So today I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week!

Wine

    • I feel like whenever I get ahead in one aspect of my life, others fall to the wayside. I'm exercising and eating better, but now I don't seem to have time to read blogs or watch videos, or blog myself!
    • While I'm excited about moving out in a few weeks, I am a little nervous. Lots of stuff to deal with. I've lived on my own before, but never while working full time. I know it will be good for me to learn, but I'm still worried I'll leave the stove on or the door unlocked or wake up and realize I have no clean clothes or something of the sort.
    • It's hot! Although not terrible, still a little unpleasant. Though I am grateful most places I'm in have AC.

Love

 

  • I have been running pretty regularly most weekday mornings. Not far, and not long, and with lots of stops for walking, but still. I've coupled this with calorie counting. It's amazing, when I realize how much latitude I gave myself and just how much I was eating. I do miss that, being able to eat whatever I want, but it wasn't healthy. I'm down around 4 pounds already since last week, which is excellent.
  • I'm excited about moving to the city for a little while. I'm still a little iffy about the idea of living there permanently, but this will be a good test of that. I'm looking forward to cooking for myself more and having more control over that.
  • Podcasts. I've been listening to some at work while doing some data entry work and, not only has it improved my productivity, but the time seems to just fly by, and I feel like I'm getting something done both work and personal-wise. Lately it's been Comedy Bang Bang and the Nerdist, but I'm open to other recommendations.

What are you loving, and not loving this week?

31May/121

Wine and Love: 8

So today I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week!

Wine

  • Still behind on blogs and vlogs. Have fallen behind on podcasts too. Bah! And very little blogging! I can't say why exactly. I'm in a little bit of a funk lately. Nothing huge, but just feeling a little down on myself, and mostly when I get home I just wanna escape, into WoW or my book. Blogs, vlogs and even podcasts, to a point, are about being social.
  • I'm hungry all the time these days, and my weight seems stalled. Both of these things worry me a bit, and I feel a little lost as how to proceed, outside of straight up willpower and saying "No, I ate a full lunch and breakfast, I do not need a snack, I am not really hungry." Maybe try and get some fruit in the office.

Love

  • Technology. I've been reading more on my Kobo and loving it. Finally found a good book that I am plowing through, the Wise Man's Fear. Really liking it so far, I'm almost halfway done.
  • I've decided to do the July move to Toronto for a month, and I am excited. Nervous, but excited.
  • I may have just signed up to do Blog Every Day in June. I'm not sure on it yet. Not sure what I'd talk about, but...well, it starts tomorrow, so we'll see! I do have some ideas for another sort of weekly post, but I haven't gotten it all organized yet.
  • Finally got a bit caught up at work. There's still more to do (there's always more to do) but we cleared a good chunk of stuff.
  • As much as I'm in a bit of a funk, I feel like I've finally nailed down some sources of these sorts of funks, and like I'm getting to the root of them. Which may be part of the funk, working through some things. Bah, I don't mean to sound so cryptic, I'm mostly talking about confidence issues, and looking at a bit of a two pronged approach to dealing with them. I'll approach from the outside, by changing my living situation and giving myself one less thing to be down on myself about, and working internally to stop the bad self-talk. If anyone else talked to me the way I talked to myself, I'd deck them where they stood. So why do I let myself talk that way?
  • I feel like I'm getting a handle on the kind of habits and practices I'd like to have in my daily life. Sadly, ideally, most of them involve getting up hella early, or sacrificing my evenings to things that...I don't generally wanna do in the evenings. Work in progress, but progress.

What are you loving, and not loving this week?

24May/120

Wine and Love: 7

So today I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week!

Wine

  • Got back from vacation to a giant pile of work. Nothing unmanageable, but a lot to deal with. I'm working my way through it, but I'm worried about other things falling through the cracks, so it's a bit stressful. Nothing insane though, just overall busy.
  • I didn't get as much done over the long weekend as I would have liked. I did clean a lot, organized a fair bit and threw out some old junk (and put aside some to be donated). But still not quite all I'd have liked to do.
  • Haven't been keeping up on YouTube, blogs or podcasts as much as I'd like. I've been busy enough that I get home and just wanna veg. But, I am anticipating more time to do all these things with the TV seasons winding down. Totes Awesome is my new How I Met Your Mother. Vodka Girls is my new Parks and Rec. Now y'all need to come up with exciting and hilarious plot lines! ;)

Love

  • It's beautiful out these days. A bit too hot for my tastes, but the weather here has been gorgeous.
  • I had an interesting proposal from a friend of mine who lives in the city. He's going to be away for most of July, and asked if I would house sit his apartment, saying I could stay there for the month if I wanted. This is incredibly generous of him, first off, and I feel more than a little honoured he asked me. And I'm tempted to just jump at it and say yes. Although I've been a little dissuaded from living in the city lately, living a lot closer to work and many friends, particularly in the middle of the summer, could be a lot of fun. I'd get to cook for myself, relax in my own space and likely be able to sleep a little later too. But, my parents are also traditionally away in July, meaning my cat would be all alone (and I can't bring her with me to this apartment; she'd shed everywhere, not to mention the litterbox, plus the fact that it's a bachelor and she would be all over me at night). I'm sure we could get someone to come in and care for her, and I'd be able to pop in a bit, but she is a very people-oriented cat, and this worries me a bit. There's also the fact that, since I've pretty well settled on finding a place in the suburbs, and doing this would mean leaving my car at my parents' place for the month, I'd have to put off finding a new place for a bit. Just for a month, but I was planning on getting the search started in the next few weeks, and this would mean stopping it mid-search, or delaying it to August. Or just making do with it being a bit of a longer commute to see places. Not a huge road block, but not ideal. I guess I could probably make it work, searching and all, but it would be a lot more difficult, going back and forth. I'm still debating on it, but it looks like it could be a lot of fun.
  • I have had the house to myself for a few days, which has been nice. In ways almost a little too quiet, but definitely nice.
  • Coffee. I'm loving coffee this week. As with every week. But this week especially. I've been making the time to make good coffee, instead of the instant Keurig stuff, and it definitely makes a difference.

What are you loving, and not loving this week?

10May/122

Wine and Love: 5

So today I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week!

Wine

  • Some friends are having a rough time, and I just don't know what to say to them to help. I want to help, but it always just seems to come out wrong, and I end up just saying "I'm sorry" a lot. I also have to resist the urge to try and fix things, and just listen, but it's tough, because I really don't know what else to say. I hope folks know that I'm there for them if they need a shoulder to cry on, and that I care about them. I just wish I was better at that sort of thing. Any suggestions, folks? I try to let them know I'm here for them, but it just doesn't seem to be enough to me.

Love

  • My parents are getting a new car, which is fun. A Dodge Journey. I'm excited to test drive it a bit.
  • I have officially paid off all the things, and can start putting money aside for the move again. I may have said this before, but then I realized I had missed a couple things, so now, they're done. I was poking around on real estate websites today, and there isn't a lot that's in my price range that is also the sort of thing I want, but there are some out there.
  • I levelled my druid to 80! This may make no sense to many of you, but it was fun for me!
  • I've been listening to a lot more podcasts, and getting some ideas. I feel like I want to podcast. I like the format, but I feel like I may be too rambly, and say "um" too much, but I can work on it. I'm also not sure where to start, or what to talk about. I was debating a sort of "this week in VEDA people" podcast, where I did a recap of stuff like…what the various channels were talking about, what people were up to, some of the big shared stories/posts on Twitter, stuff like that, but maybe that's too insider, and is there even a lot to talk about? Or maybe just talk about cool things this week, and let it be whatever I want it to be? I may need a cohost, though. But stuff like…this week, Linda and Suki are giving away the book Herbavoracious. This book is about _________, and earlier Linda went to an event where she sampled these things, and Tom, Kitty and Ian are debating a Doctor Who video acting contest, Totes Awesome is talking about Guilty Pleasures, MSTHK about Guest Stars, GFM has been posting a new Drabble a week these days, stuff like that.

What are you loving, and not loving this week?

3May/124

Wine and Love: 4

So today I'm doing Wine and Love again, hosted by Suki! Here we talk about the things making us reach for the wine glass (or alcoholic beverage of choice) and the things we love this week!

Wine

  • Things continue to be busy at work. Nothing insane, but uncomfortably busy for me. I know I'll eventually catch up, and I'm glad I can leave things at work, for the most part. But I'd like things to settle a bit soon.
  • My stomach's been bugging me lately, and I think it's food related. I'm not sure if I'm developing some allergies or sensitivities, but I am starting to wonder. I'm really looking forward to being able to cook for myself too. People keep saying I'll miss meals at home, but my parents are both fans of very simple, starch heavy meals, so I'm really excited to be able to try some different things and improve my own cooking skills.
  • The weather's been unpleasant up til today. That's a small thing, but I find weather like that, with the rain and whatnot, makes me really want to just curl up and stay home.
  • I've felt a bit of social anxiety and strain lately. Nothing super crazy, but enough that I've felt really socially drained when I get home. I want to just not talk to people for a while, which I can't really do at home. Again, a small thing, but it irks me. Introvert me needs a recharge day.

Love

  • I'm getting that recharge day! Taking a vac day tomorrow just to relax, sleep, WoW a bit and just rest up a bit. I'm really looking forward to it.
  • I'm starting to feel more excited and inspired to blog, vlog and post more. I've been consuming more content and getting excited about producing my own. I've been listening to a lot of podcasts. I'm not sure how well I'd do on something like that myself. Anyone who's watched my vlogs may have noticed I tend to ramble and I'm not the best at getting to a point, but I like the idea of it. Not sure what I'd do a podcast about though.
  • Finances are getting in order! I've been disciplined and things are coming together nicely.
  • IT'S GFM'S BIRTHDAY! :D :D:D Happy birthday dear! Love your face! I've mentioned that on every other medium possible, I think, so the blog is the last one. She thinks she's turning old, but she's not. At all. You should go wish her a happy birthday.

What are you loving, and not loving this week?